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Five tips on how to talk to kids about dementia

This informative article comes from a website called The Conversation. It’s a great piece that summarizes how to talk to kids about dementia. How do they know how to talk to kids about dementia? I’m glad you asked 🙂

The author is Jess Baker, PhD, is a lecturer in psychiatry at the University of New South Wales in Sydney, Australia. She was inspired by Alzheimer’s Australia’s national survey on dementia awareness that was published in September, 2014, and the result that dementia reported low awareness and understanding about dementia. She noticed that children’s attitudes and awareness about dementia have never been measured in Australia.

She decided to make some focus group studies and interviewed over 40 children. She also showed them short clips of people with dementia and asked them what they thought. These videos are part of a UNSW project that is taking action to create a more dementia-friendly society by educating the next generation, since breaking down stigma starts with education. One of the goals of the project is to use the information from the focus groups to create an online education program that fits in with Australia’s education program.

So, interested to know what she found?

Five tips on how to talk to kids about dementia

Jess Baker, UNSW Australia

Why does Grandpa keep forgetting my name?

Why does Mum do silly things like put salt in my hot chocolate?

With 900,000 Australians expected to be living with dementia by 2050, these are the types of questions more and more children will be asking as they come to know someone living with dementia. But are parents, caregivers and educators prepared for these questions?

Alzheimer’s Australia’s first national survey of dementia awareness last year would suggest that the answer is no, with people with dementia reporting low community awareness and understanding of the condition.

So how do we talk to kids about dementia and what do they want to know? I recently ran focus groups and interviewed over 40 children, people with dementia and the loved ones – including children – of people with dementia. This is what they told me.

1. Tell the whole truth

Children want adults to be completely open and honest about dementia. In the words of a 10-year-old boy:

I wouldn’t say everything will be okay because I hate – I absolutely hate it – you’d rather someone say to you, yeah, your grandma’s never going to get better.

We need to tell children that there is presently no cure for dementia and that the health of the person with dementia will get worse. This may be upsetting, but is important to ensure your child’s trust. If you are unsure about how much to say, let your child ask the questions. This will help you gauge your child’s current level of understanding.

Kids need to know why grandma does silly things like put the keys in the fridge. from http://www.shutterstock.com

2. Remind children that their loved one is still a person

Remind your child that Grandpa is still Grandpa, that Mum is still Mum. A 12-year-old girl said:

It’s important to know that there is actually a person underneath […] they’re not just some random now they’ve got a disease […] they’re still special.

Children with a loved one with dementia were also emphatic that knowing it’s not the fault of the person with dementia, and that they cannot help or control what they do, was the one key thing that helped them understand the change in their loved one.

3. Prepare children for the unexpected

Parents spoke about the unpredictability of dementia and how it was confusing for their child. Children told me that inconsistencies in the behaviour of a person with dementia made them wonder whether the person was making the behaviour up.

Dementia is different for everyone. We need to emphasise this and talk about all the behaviour changes that people with dementia can experience. Children described the changes they saw in a loved one, such as in personality or mood, rather than memory loss, as being the hardest to understand. Fear often comes from the unknown; so by keeping your child informed, it may reduce any fear that your child may feel around your loved one.

4. Brainstorm activities for children to do with a loved one

Fear or awkwardness around people with dementia can also be because of not “knowing what to do”. Children can listen to music, look at old photos, show videos on their iPad, play games, or do craft with their loved one with dementia.

This also means the time spent with their loved one is likely to be fun and happy. Parents should emphasise that showing love and kindness is key and, most importantly, that you do not need a good memory to have a good time.

Find something children can do with their loved ones. from http://www.shutterstock.com

5.Look for positives

The children described some beautiful positives:

they’re cool in a way because they are quirky […] I liked that they were different.

We need to seek and share positives with children. Emphasise the good times; for example, take photos of your child and your loved one together during happy occasions.

These findings are informing the development of a government-funded education program for Australian schoolchildren about dementia.

Some children and grandchildren of people living with dementia have already started the conversation about dementia. They have spoken candidly about what it is like having a loved one with dementia, in a bid to help other children better deal with the condition. You can watch their videos here.

Jess Baker, Lecturer in Psychiatry, UNSW Australia

This article was originally published on The Conversation. Read the original article.

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