5 Therapeutic Activities for Alzheimer’s Care Partners

This post comes to us from familyaffaires.com. I came across it on a LinkedIn post by a gentleman I met in a fantastic online course about dementia, Mike Good. Mike Good is founder of Together in This, an online community helping family members caring for someone with Alzheimer’s. Through short, informative articles and easy-to-use tools, such as the Introductory Guide to Alzheimer’s, he helps them take control and have peace-of-mind they are doing the right things.

5 Therapeutic Activities for the Alzheimer’s Care Partners

care partners alzheimersWe often hear about therapeutic activities that are beneficial for the person with Alzheimer’s or another dementia but it’s just as important to consider their care partner – the caregiver.

Living successfully with the disease requires that both care partners enjoy therapeutic enrichment that benefits their mind, body, and spirit.

But because the caregiver is often the only person caring for their loved one, it is difficult for them to find time to enjoy activities that are beneficial for them as well.

There are activities that can be done together that simultaneously meet the needs of the caregiver while providing beneficial sensory stimulation for the person with Alzheimer’s or other dementia:

  1. Nature has a way of soothing our soul. Whether it’s the fresh air on our face, the sounds of birds chirping, or the smell of a flower field there is a healing effect from spending time outdoors. Taking walks together, visiting the beach, or going to a local farm are ways to get closer to Mother Nature.
  2. Animals are often used in therapy. Dogs, cats, llamas, and even horses have been proven to have positive effects on a person’s demeanor. Aside from spending time with the family pet, some communities have ranches where visitors can feed and pet the animals. Some horse ranches, for instance, focus entirely on helping people with unique needs such as dementia or autism.
  3. Music definitely tops the list with how it can instantly impact a person’s mood and bring back a flood of memories. Beyond simply listening to music, the care partners can dance, sing, and even shake maracas together.
  4. Hobbies & Crafts are a great way to create something together that will continue to provide joy to others for years. Whether it’s crocheting a blanket or painting a picture, the feeling of accomplishment by making something that others can use or appreciate is very rewarding. These keepsakes often stay with the family and provide cherished memories for generations.
  5. Aromatherapy can accompany a hand massage and some soft music to create a spa-like atmosphere. The care partners can relax and “wash away” their anxiety while potentially improving their mental clarity.

These are just some of the things that care partners can do together that yield a therapeutic benefit for both individuals. These suggestions generally provide a relaxing atmosphere while also promoting a happy relationship.

Tell us what activity you do with your loved one that is beneficial to both of you.

Smart Apps for Dementia Carers

Apps for Alzheimer’s Caregivers

Here are the seven of the best and worst apps for caregivers that A Place for Mom reviewed, including information about their features, the devices for which they’re available, and our overall opinion of their usefulness and value. Of course every caregiver’s needs are different, so don’t necessarily rule out an app they didn’t praise or count on a highly praised app to work perfectly for your family.

Balance: For Alzheimer’s Caregivers

iPhone: Yes ($.99) | iPad: yes ($.99) | Android: No | Web app: No | Ann’s full Review
Balance: For Alzheimer’s Caregivers is a versatile app geared specifically caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s disease.
Features:

  • Alzheimer’s disease reference and information
  • Alzheimer’s caregiving and advice
  • Advanced medication management features, such as refill date, start date, dosage, and so on
  • Uses the iPhone and iPad’s native scheduling  features, but adds categories relevant to caregivers
  • “Doctor diary” for logging symptoms and taking notes that may be relevant at the next’s visit
  • News about Alzheimer’s disease

Pros/Cons: Ann found the app to be useful, but found some areas that could use some improvement: “I did note some shortcomings. Patient profile information is limited to name, birth date, and gender, and the app lacks a contact list, sharable to-do list, and file storage capability. I also feel that having a companion website increases usability significantly, but unfortunately a user’s only window into Balance is through the smartphone app.”

Caregiver’s Touch

iPhone: Yes ($4.99) | iPad: No  Android: No | Web app: Yes ($19.95 per month or $199.95 per year) | Ann’s Full Review
Ann was utterly impressed with Caregiver’s Touch calling it a sanity saver and writing, “Where was this when I needed it?” It has a huge number of features. Here are just a few. You can learn more in Ann’s review.
Features:

  • Log of essential information for your loved one, including birthdate, SSN, blood type, military history and other such info
  • Calendar for caregiving events that accommodates for caring for more than one person =
  • Medication management, including doses, schedule and other important information
  • A place to store insurance information such as policy numbers and policy types
  • Caregiving contact list
  • Medical history log
  • Supports sharing information with family members so that you can coordinate care
  • Security features to protect private information

Pros/Cons: To get the most out of Caregiver’s Touch, it needs to be used in tandem with the web app, and this subscription costs $19.95 per month, or $199.95 per year, making it more expensive than any of its competitors.

CareZone

Smartphone iconsiPhone: Yes (free) | iPad: Yes (free)  Android: Yes (free) | Web app: No | Ann’s full review
Ann was quite pleased with CareZone features, and also the fact it’s free. Note that since the publication of Ann’s review, they have since added an Android version.
Features:

  • A care profile to log all pertinent information about loved one who is receiving care
  • Invite friends and families to join you and become “helpers”
  • A shareable task-list to help you keep on track
  • A shareable journal, which includes ability to log observations and upload photos to keep loved ones up to date about the elder’s well-being
  • Medication tracking, “to keep a list all meds, dosages, purpose, prescribing physician, pharmacy, RX number and more.”
  • File storage service so that you can share files with loved ones about elder’s care
  • What’s called a “CareZone broadcast” that allows you to “send a recorded voice message to up to 100 recipients.”


Pros/Cons:
 Ann was disappointed the app did not track medication schedules or send reminders, although she contacted the makers and those features are in development.

Caring Ties

iPhone: No | iPad: No  | Android: No | Web app: Yes (free)
Caring Ties offers many of the features you would expect in an application for caregivers, but it’s strictly  a web based application rather than one designed to run specifically on your device. That means that you can access it with any modern, internet connected smartphones and tablets but that it is not downloaded from an application store. This app might be best for someone who does not have a smart phone or tablet, but can access the internet on a PC or laptop.
Features:

  • Reminders, for example, to test blood sugar
  • Note taking about loved one’s well being
  • Log medical information such as blood pressure
  • Share information with loved ones, and including setting different levels of access for different loved ones
  • List of medications

Pros/Cons: Caring Ties seems to run well on a desktop version but it was somewhat clunky when tested on an iPhone. The makers advertise the web-only factor as a benefit, noting, “Even if you accidentally spill a drink on your device there’s nothing to worry about,” but other apps offer both a dedicated app and in the cloud storage, so this argument is somewhat dubious.

Mobicare

iPhone: Yes (free) | iPad: No  | Android: No | Web app: Yes | Ann’s full review
Mobicare is a simple, straightforward and free iPhone that Ann wasn’t impressed with. Ann said the app had some notable shortcomings, but it has some potentially useful features. As a free app, it can’t hurt to try if any of its features appeals to you. It may be worth checking on in the future too, as app developers constantly work to improve their product by releasing updates.
Features:

  • Profile of loved one who is receiving care including birth date, gender, basic insurance information, and the contact information for one physician
  • Basic symptom tracking based on 15 preset choices (i.e. insomnia, wandering, etc.)
  • Basic medication tracking but with some limitations


Pros/Cons:
 Ann said that cons included the lack of a calendar, contact list, control over what other caregivers have access to, bugs within the app, and the extremely limited functionality of the web version of the app.

RX Personal Caregiver

Smartphones stackediPhone: Yes ($9.99, free trial version available) | iPad: No  Android: No | Web app: No
RX Personal Caregiver is all about medications. Despite its name, it does not have features one might expect from a caregiving app except for the medication reminders other drug related features. It may have the best medication related features of all the caregiver apps but it doesn’t have any other caregiver related features.
Features:

  • Detailed medication management support, including tracking doses, dosage, refills and so on
  • Missed dose instructions
  • Guide to more than 15,000 drugs
  • FDA alerts for recalled medications

Pros/Cons: The apps sole focus on drugs makes it unsuitable as a caregiver’s sole app. It may be work in concert with another app in cases where medication management is particularly important or challenging, but most caregivers will not find this app useful unless their only need is medication management.

Unfrazzle

iPhone: Yes (free) | iPad: Yes (free) | Android: Free | Web app: no
Unfrazzle is marketed as a caregiver app, although was difficult to determine upon first inspection. After spending more time with it, we were able to see that it’s highly customizable and personalizable tool that could be quite helpful for caregivers. It could also be used for other productivity and “life-hacking” purposes as well. That said, it requires the user to invest significant time in setup and customization to get the most out of it.
Features:

  • Create to-do list and journals
  • Track anything and everything you like (i.e. weight over time, mood, etc.)
  • Connect with other family members and share information and responsibilities
  • Highly customizable

Pros/Cons: The app is highly flexible and makes no cookie-cutter assumptions about the user and his or her needs, but it is also quite complex and might be somewhat imponderable to less tech-savvy users. There is a steep learning curve and the user interface is less than intuitive. Still, the app is young and its developers seem eager to improve it, so we expect it will become a stronger and more accessible tool over time.

Healthcare Apps 2014 – a few impressions

This event was held on April 28th-30th in Victoria in London. It was organised by Pharma IQ and clearly had a strong pharma focus (including the charge which at £1995 for industry attendees clearly discriminated in favour of those with big-pharma sized budgets). It was also held just a few days after the significantly lower-priced Royal Society of Medicine event, and in the middle of a London Tube strike, all of which doubtless contributed to the relatively modest attendance (26 paid). I am most grateful to the organisers for kindly inviting me as one of speaker Alex Wyke’s guests.

As mentioned in an earlier post, there was a similarity with the RSM agenda, so I won’t repeat comments made by the same speaker before. The first up was the 3G Doctor, David Doherty, who gave another of his excellent presentations, although the sound engineer sadly made some of it inaudible. After a review of how we had got to where we are, he suggested that the Internet is about to become a device-dominated network. He drew a parallel between Rolls Royce’s telemetry-enabled service approach for jet engine provision and how LTCs like diabetes might best be managed.

He went on to describe the importance of mobile technology to clinicians, suggesting that there will be a date beyond which they will not be allowed to practice without owning one. For training, the difference in performance is already emerging: he pointed people to the UC Irvine study that showed that their students scored 23% higher when they used apps to study with.

As he did at the RSM, Julian Hitchcock, from Lawford Davies Denoon gave another truly brilliant summary of the UK and US regulatory position. Every time I hear his talk I learn more – on this occasion it was recognition of jusat how complicated the regulatory position is, with the great number of considerations in addition to MDD/IVDA, data privacy and consumer protection.

Unfortunately I had to duck out for the presentations by David Grainger, Senior Medical Device Specialist from the MHRA and another RSM speaker, Indi Singh, Head of Enterprise Architecture at NHS England.

Jim Dawton, Lead specialist – Design, at the Technology Strategy Board, did a great job of convincing us that money spent on a well designed app is money well spent.

Alex Wyke of PatientView gave a similarly excellent presentation to the one she gave at the RSM on the myhealthapps site that rates health apps on customer feedback.

What I had hoped to be the highlight of the event, Baku Patel, Senior Advisor at the FDA in the US, turned out to be a phone call from him which somehow lost much when compared with a presentation in person, especially as in the forty minutes he principally confined himself to the basics of FDA regulation that have been so well described by Julian Hitchcock as (a small) part of his regulation presentations anyway.

The second day began with an interesting talk by Alexia Tonnel, Director of Evidence Resources at NICE, who spoke about NICE’s use of apps to deliver NICE guidance and the BNF. Of special interest to those present was the willingness to allow NICE content to be used by other organisations in their apps, obviously on an appropriate basis; many business cards were exchanged.

This was followed by Peter Dannenfelser, Director of Pharmaceutical Marketing at Janssen Pharmaceuticals (Johnson & Johnson’s pharma arm) who told us about strategic approaches to developing an HCP (ie clinician-facing) app. He explained that, compared with tablets, smartphones are used by clinicians typically at the point-of-care for quick hits so the apps need to be simple to use. He suggested that good principles for app creation are: meet user needs: be beautiful but practical; speediness; your app is yr brand; and finally update, update, update. He gave appropriate good and bad examples ot make his points.

Next up was Rowan Pritchard-Jones, who offered a slightly different angle to that in his RSM presentation. A particular point I had missed in previous presentations is that not only does the Mersey Burns app give much more accurate fluid infusion calculation, it also saves emergency doctors some ten minutes of the ‘Golden Hour’ to do the 19 separate calculations. He is also on a mission to get patients to feel comfortable with doctors using technology – as he said: “I want patients to see doctors approaching their beds using smartphones & not worry”. Rowan told this editor in conversation he now has CE certification for another app, Mersey Micro, which doubtless we’ll get to hear about very soon.

Andy Smith, Global Mobile & Emerging Channels Manager, Digital, in BUPA gave an interesting presentation on the Ground Miles app, aimed at getting people worldwide to exercise more ot reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke. A great initiative by BUPA, with a well designed and marketed app!

Imran Rafi, Chair of Clinical Innovation & Research at the RCGP gave an excellent presentation on data protection and risk management issues associated with apps. A particular challenge he mentioned that had not occurred to me before was the information governance aspects of releasing information on PHRs from other sources, eg Benefits. In TTA we have commented on the RCGP’s 2022 Vision documents that almost failed to recognise forecast technological progress at all. Imran is now working hard to change that, so more power to his elbow.

That was followed by Sharon Cooper, CTO of the BMJ who gave us a fascinating insight into how the BMJ uses user input to design their apps – the series of pictures from sketch to completed screen design were particularly impressive. She showed a particularly interesting infographic of use of smartphones by doctors which is well worth a look. She explained that the four critical aspects of decision support for clinicians are: computer based generation of decision support; provision of recommendation rather than just an assessment; provision of decision support at time and location of decision making; and automatic provision of decision support as part of clinician workflow.

What this editor took away from the event is that, to misquote L P Hartley, pharma is a foreign country; they do things differently there. For example, most of the tea-break, and round-table, discussions with pharma delegates focused on how apps could be used to promote or support product sales, or improve the effectiveness of products when sold (thus presumably encouraging more sales). Others had come along from their companies for inspiration, having been given app-related responsibilities, and told to find an appropriate role for them. This is very different to the clear patient outcome-focused world this editor is used to.

In this context, it is perhaps just worth referring readers to the mobihealthnews in depth item on pharma’s digital health opportunities which, though just released, already has an active disagreement underway in the comments. The two key aspects they highlight are the lack of trust patients (presumably US) have in pharma, and the industry’s strong risk adversity.

– See more at: http://telecareaware.com/healthcare-apps-2014-a-few-impressions/#sthash.Xi4dIZjn.dpuf

The Role for Dementia Consultant Teams

I came across this article on the Changing Aging website. It’s a great resource on changing perceptions and practices surrounding aging. Check it out, you won’t be disappointed!

The Role for Dementia Consultant Teams

In my last post I criticized a reporter for the Australian Financial Review for his characterization of people living with dementia, and of our aging population in general. My comments were aimed purely at his offensive stereotypes, and did not address deeper issues around the subject matter. Now that the furor over that article has subsided somewhat, it’s time to tackle that deeper concern.

The occasion for the article was to describe a move by the Australian government to respond to knowledge deficits in care homes by creating a group of “Severe Behavioural Response Teams”—consultant teams that would travel to homes and help the staff respond to challenging situations that have arisen. The implication is that such situations would primarily involve people living with dementia who have exhibited severe forms of distress.

As our rapidly aging population creates a relative lack of professionals with expertise in dementia and other aging issues, it seems reasonable that traveling consultants might help bridge the knowledge gap. But as is so often the case, the devil is in the details. Will the teams be used effectively, or will they reinforce counterproductive measures?

There are two potential pitfalls I would like to address:

The first is the problem that inevitably occurs when an “expert” is brought in who has little knowledge of the person in question. In order to best understand what may underlie a person’s words and actions, it is critically important to know the many facets that characterize the individual, such as her personality, history, relationships, strengths, challenges, values, and coping styles. It takes time to understand these many dimensions. The usual pattern of health care consultation is one of relatively brief interaction, as there is much ground to cover and many people to see.

In my view, the best consultation (and the approach I try to teach in my seminars) would provide a framework for understanding the person’s distress and then engage those who know the person best to use that framework and their deep knowledge of the person to craft the solutions that will best suit the individual. I am guessing that this is not the charter that the Response Teams have been given.

The second issue, however, is far more fundamental and critical to our overall view of individuals in distress. Too often, the overriding attitude driving these consultations is that it is the person in question who is the problem and whose “behavior” needs to somehow be “managed” by the care team.

Daniella Greenwood, Innovation and Strategy Manager for Arcare Aged Care in Australia, brilliantly expressed the problem with this view in her plenary address at Alzheimer’s Disease International last April. I recently wrote Daniella to let her know that I wanted to address this topic, and she kindly shared her thoughts.

I’ll let Daniella tell it in her own words:

Dear Al,

I have been incredibly heartened by the level of national and international condemnation of the recent – and appalling – AFR article. As you point out in your email, this has also led to increased international attention on Australia’s approach to dealing with the ‘severe behaviours’ of people living with dementia in a residential care setting. As you will recall, in my recent plenary at the ADI conference in Perth, I specifically addressed this issue by posing and attempting to answer the following question:

How might the teams of experts who are called in to assist providers in supporting the most distressed residents, actually work with providers to improve operations and approaches, rather than merely focusing on individual care plans?” 

When the teams of visiting experts place their focus on the distressed individual – rather than on the person’s relational and physical environment – it only serves to further stigmatise and pathologise the distress. Staff internalise where the focus is placed.

Suggesting that the answer to a person’s distress might be a clock in their room, a fiddle-apron, or anti-psychotic drugs  – when the building and interior design is disabling, and a range of different rotating care staff are trying to boss them about and take their clothes off – what do you honestly believe might need to be addressed first? 

The focus is on BPSD, and all emotions and expressions are lumped under this unhelpful banner and all viewed within the frame of a dementia diagnosis. Expressions and moods are seen as medical symptoms rather than as ordinary human emotions that we all experience, emotions that would benefit from the same kind of psychological and spiritual support that people without a dementia diagnosis might have access to. There is no space to think of these expressions and moods as completely understandable personal reactions to illness and loss, a disabling environment, or being surrounded by bossy strangers.

Staff watch and learn from the team of visiting experts, and they internalise both the focus and the language. How can we ask staff to look for the meanings of the distress, to look at what the person might need or what they might be responding to, and then use language and approaches that reinforce to them that the emotions and actions of distressed people are merely ‘symptoms’ of dementia?

I would like to see a team of experts come in – and after ruling out any underlying medical conditions – focus attention first on the physical environment, staffing model, duties lists, potential for further psychological and spiritual support, and on the way that individuals are spoken to and treated by the staff who support them.

To her last point, Daniella remarked to me in conversation that wouldn’t it be a wonderful turn of events if a consulting team came into the home, listened to the staff’s concerns, and then proceeded to observe everything except the person in question? While there is certainly much to be gained by a personal visit, her point was that we have to look first at ourselves—the systems, relationships, and other environmental factors that might underlie a person’s “completely understandable personal reactions,” when seen in an experiential light.

As Viktor Frankl once said, “An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior.”

As I said, the devil is in the details.


Dr. Al Power

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Al Power is a geriatrician, author, musician, and an international educator on transformational models of care for older adults, particularly those living with changing cognitive abilities. You can follow his speaking schedule at http://www.alpower.net/gallenpower_schedule.htm

This is me – Alzheimer’s Society

I heard of the This is me tool in a recent online course about dementia that I am taking. The information below is taken from the Alzheimer’s Society’s webpage. You can access their page by clicking on the title, below, or on the links in this post.

This is me – tool for people with dementia receiving professional care

Our popular tool, This is me, is for people with dementia who are receiving professional care in any setting – at home, in hospital, in respite care or a care home. It was originally developed for people with dementia who were going into hospital.

This is me is a simple and practical tool that people with dementia can use to tell staff about their needs, preferences, likes, dislikes and interests.

It enables health and social care professionals to see the person as an individual and deliver person-centred care that is tailored specifically to the person’s needs. It can therefore help to reduce distress for the person with dementia and their carer. It can also help to prevent issues with communication, or more serious conditions such as malnutrition and dehydration.

Two people sitting next to each other reading.

This is me was first developed by the Northumberland Acute Care and Dementia Group and is supported by the Royal College of Nursing.

This form can be completed in print, or by typing into the PDF document and saving it for update at a later stage.

Order a free copy of this publication via our online publications form.

You can buy a pack of 25 for £3.20 + postage and packaging from our online shop.

I have downloaded the tool, which seems like a great guide to gathering important information about a person with dementia so that others can quickly get an introduction to who they are.

For someone with dementia, changes such as moving to an unfamiliar place or meeting new people who contribute to their care can be unsettling or distressing. This is me provides information about the person at the time the document is completed. It can help health and social care professionals build a better understanding of who the person really is.

This is me should be completed by the individual(s) who know the person best and, wherever possible, with the person with dementia. It should be updated as necessary. It is not a medical document.

On the back page you will find more detailed guidance notes to help you complete This is me, including examples of the kind of information to include. You might find it helpful to read through these notes before you begin to fill in the form.

There are places to write in answers to sections like “Things that may worry or upset me,” and “Current and past interests.” It also gives a guide to help answer the sections, with starters like:

My sleep: Include usual sleep patterns and bedtime routine. Do you like a light left on or do you find it difficult to find the toilet at night? Do you have a favoured position in bed, special mattress or pillow?

My personal care: List your usual practices, preferences and level of assistance required in the bath, shower or other. Do you prefer a male or female carer? Do you have preferences for brands of continence aids, soaps, cosmetics, toiletries, shaving, teeth cleaning or dentures? Do you have particular care or styling requirements for your hair?

What makes me feel better if I am anxious or upset: Include things that may help if you become unhappy or distressed, eg comforting words, music or TV. Do you like company and someone sitting and talking with you or do you prefer quiet time alone?

It’s apt that I would hear about this tool this week, when I have found myself thinking of things I should write down if I were to ever get dementia. Little things like how I really like shaved ice, I have never been a big fan of showering, picturing kittens playing in grass is my happy place, and I have always twirled my hair. I have already started filling this out for myself, as an exercise. I think I will find a few things out about myself along the way as well :)

If you or someone you live with has dementia, this would be a great information sheet to have on hand.

LGBT older people with dementia should not be forced back into the closet

This article comes to us yet again from the UK-based source, The Guardian.

There are 1.2 million older lesbian and gay people in the UK, yet they are an invisible population

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Social care services tend to assume that older service users are heterosexual. Photograph: David Poller/Zuma Press/Corbis

A colleague recently told me about two older male residents in a care home where she once worked. Staff initially supported the burgeoning friendship between the pair, who both had dementia. However, when it became obvious the men were attracted to each other and might develop a relationship, support workers stopped seating them together and threatened to tell relatives.

This is just one example of the challenges faced by older LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) people in social care. February was LGBT History Month, a timely reason to consider how the social care workforce supports the ageing LGBT community.

A new piece of work explores the needs of this community, asking how to provide its members with more appropriate support. The National Care Forum, which represents UK not-for-profit health and social care providers, is working on the project with the National LGB&T Partnership plus Sue Ryder and the Voluntary Organisations Disability Group under a Department of Health partnership.

Our partnership will disseminate practical case studies and create a toolkit for commissioners to support the specific needs of older LGBT people. It cannot be right that people from the generation that fought hard for equality are forced back into the closet when they receive social care.

As the first part of our project, we have published a paper, The dementia challenge for LGBT communities. It is vital we raise awareness. Estimates suggest there are 1.2 million older lesbian and gay people in the UK, yet they are an invisible population and rarely acknowledged by service providers and commissioners. In its 2011 briefing, Working with lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people, the Social Care Institute for Excellence states that “commissioners and providers don’t often think about LGBT people when planning and delivering services, but this does not mean that LGBT people are not using services or do not want to use services.”

In addition, dementia is at the top of the national agenda (by 2025, says the Alzheimer’s Society, there will be an estimated 1 million people with dementia in the UK), but there is no specific reference to LGBT issues in the National Dementia Strategy. Given LGBT older people may be estranged from their relatives and lack family support, formal care is likely to be even more important than it is for their heterosexual peers.

We know where some of the biggest challenges lie. For example, prejudice – current or historic – can affect how someone perceives and experiences support. While some lose their inhibitions due to dementia, others who have previously come out feel unable to be open about their sexuality or transgender status. Dementia causes anguish and confusion; this experience could be exacerbated as older people with the condition struggle to deal with negative perceptions of their sexuality or gender in residential care.

Another major barrier is the lack of research. As the 2010 Equality and Human Rights Commission report Don’t Look Back states: “Older LGB people have been overlooked in health and social care legislation, policy, research, guidance and practice, which assume service users are heterosexual.”

So what of the solutions? Some campaigners believe LGBT-specific residential care for people with dementia might be one answer. Yet, apart from the fact that public funding for such developments is unlikely in the current financial climate, many people do not want to live in LGBT-only care settings. What is preferable, they say, is “LGBT friendly” dementia support in mainstream settings – which relies less on funds and more on cultural change and staff training.

To achieve this, we need to develop more good practice. Incorporating real-life stories of LGBT people in the training of dementia support staff will help to make the issue more well known. In addition, we need to replicate the work of the care providers that bring together service users into discussion forums. This can influence staff practices and give older LGBT people an unprecedented, supportive platform to voice concerns.

Commissioners are crucial to improving standards of care. By including awareness of the needs of LGBT older people in contracts, care commissioning can be more sensitive and demand more appropriate responses from providers. In turn, the Care Quality Commission regulator can place pressure on commissioners to do more to address support for ageing LGBT communities.

The dignity in care agenda is of growing importance in our sector, but we must ask if its core values of respect and compassion truly extend to all those we support. While part of the solution rests on wider changes in social attitudes towards older LGBT people, there is much that we as a social care workforce can do to lead the way.

Dementia care in Japan is being solved through volunteer schemes, not government

This post comes to us from the UK source, The Guardian. You can read the original article by clicking on the title below. I think that utilizing volunteers to support dementia is a wonderful strategy! It serves to train and educate the wider public, getting them involved in compassionate care, and also raises awareness and reduces stigma. PLUS, then there is a whole force of people who are trained, ready, and able to help people with dementia to stay active and engaged in their communities and lives.

By Mayumi Hayashi on November 18, 2014

Community projects, such as open houses which provide all-day care, are innovative and low-cost

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4.6 million people in Japan are living with dementia. Photograph: Franck Robichon/EPA

With the world’s fastest ageing population where one in four are over 65 and there are 4.6 million people (15% of the older population) living with dementia, Japan is struggling to find sustainable and affordable solutions. With the world’s highest level of debt – 230% of national GDP – these solutions to the challenge of dementia must be both innovative and cost-effective.

While political leaders take the stage in Tokyo to promote their “big” dementia policies, at ground level grassroots initiatives are helping to make communities dementia friendly. Central government is beginning to take notice, appreciate and even promote these volunteer-led examples of dementia care and support. This positive response reflects the overriding economic pressures and concerns – to defuse the “ticking time-bomb” of dementia.

The sophisticated long term care insurance system, which is universal and funded partly by tax, partly by insurance contributions, ensures robust national provision for dementia care and support. It is part of the overall drive for an integrated community care system by 2025, when people aged 65 and over will exceed 30% of the population. But fresh new voluntary approaches are supporting the publicly-funded health and care provision.

Free from bureaucracy (exacting health and safety legislation, risk assessments, evaluation-driven inspections and safeguarding) Japanese families, carers and wider community members are providing low key, informal and seemingly effective social care, compassion and support.

Across Japan, 5.4 million trained volunteers known as “dementia friends” are being efficiently managed by only four full time paid staff. Many of them are beginning to form task forces and are enjoying a free hand as they introduce an imaginative range of dementia care and support programmes which are friendly and flexible – and which can flourish in the climate of trust.

The approval of central government along with the laissez-faire approach of local authorities has enabled distinctive forms of grassroots care and support models to emerge and flourish. Such initiatives include the “open house” provision together with neighbourhood-watch style networking. The key feature of these – and other initiatives – is that they are local, based on voluntary support and are unencumbered by restrictive bureaucracy.

Created in early 2014, the latest example of the open house – “Suzu-no-ya” – scheme is run by volunteers who offer local residents with dementia and their carers the weekly opportunity to access all-day care including lunch and tea. Drop-in facilities also include informal advice and peer support for carers, backed up by a 24 hour phone carer support line. The open house concept embraces normalisation through familiar, relaxed and friendly surroundings. The scheme takes places in volunteers own houses, or in low cost, empty rented houses. There are 8.2m empty properties in Japan – 13.5% of the national housing stock.

In Kobe the “Sakura-chan” – a variation on the scheme – has privately rented residential dwellings to receive dementia patients and their carers for lunch, day-trips, dementia awareness raising and education. Carers are offered respite by peer carers along with a 24 hour help line. Situated next door to the Kobe local authority offices, lunch is always on offer to officials and care managers. Through informal but successful lobbying the start-up funding for 12 more open houses has been approved.

Neighbourhood-watch style networks specifically look out for the 10,300 “wanderers”; people with dementia who become lost and confused away from home. Led by volunteers, who act in partnership with the police, local businesses and charities, the network helps to steer wanderers safely home, and provides invaluable support and reassurance for carers and families. It is also an essential safety net for those living with dementia. 61.3% of Japan’s 1,741 local authorities embrace the scheme. Taken seriously, wanderer alert drills are practiced on a regular basis – and the scheme is officially endorsed.

This month, Japan hosted the global dementia legacy event – during which prime minister Shinzō Abe promised more dementia policies “to realise the creation of a dementia integrated community care system… an all party approach… reflecting the views of those with dementia and their carers”. Big policy promises – again. Perhaps the solutions can be found in the low cost, apparently high impact initiatives carried out with quiet dignity and little fanfare in Japan’s dementia friendly community.

Mayumi Hayashi is Leverhulme early career fellow at King’s College London

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11 Off-beat Alzheimer’s therapies

This article come to us from alzlive.com.

Celebrate this most illusory of human emotions and the activities that can bring about well-being.

Dolls? Horses? Connect Four?

Believe it or not, these things can act as therapies for those living with Alzheimer’s and dementia. Check out the quirky list below. See what other seemingly strange things can help your loved ones.

1) Aroma Therapy
Several essential oils—like Lavender, Peppermint, Rosemary, Lemon Balm and Bergamot—have been shown to ease anxiety and sleep problems, as well as improve cognitive function and memory. Oils can be used in massages and baths, or through misting and direct inhalation, among other things. Therapy never smelled so good.

2) Puppeteering

Usually paired with music, puppet shows help to stimulate memories, build confidence, and improve social connections between residents and staff at long-term care facilities. Even people in the later stages Alzheimer’s and dementia benefit. Those who have become non-verbal react positively to puppet shows, often showing their engagement with the visual stimulus through their smiles.

3) Dog Therapypuuuup

Everyone loves puppies. Dogs provide stimulation for people with Alzheimer’s, helping to hold their attention and keep them connected to reality. Specially trained canines can also calm people who get agitated easily, and can be trained to know when to lead them away from stressful situation. Plus, dogs are great mood boosters. Seriously. Look at any puppy and try not to smile.

4) Laughing Yoga

Literally a group of people sitting in a room, laughing—it looks weird, but it works. Led by a facilitator, group members are encouraged to “fake it ’til they make it,” forcing laughter until it becomes genuine. Bouts of laughter are interspersed with yogic breathing. The practice is particularly good for those with Alzheimer’s because it allows people to laugh without necessarily having to understand a joke. In clinical studies, laughter has been shown to elevate mood an reduce anxiety.

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5) Connect Four 

No clinical studies have been done to specifically measure the benefits of Connect Four. But at George Brown College’s School of Health and Wellness in Toronto, Ont., students who are completing co-op placements in long-term care facilities use Connect Four to bond with residents. The large game pieces and straightforward instructions are well-suited to those with dementia. Playing the game helps them to strengthen their motor skills, and acts as an easy, non-intimidating way to interact socially.

6) Horse Therapy
A study conducted by the Ohio State University, an equine therapy center and an adult daycare center found that with supervision, people with Alzheimer’s could safely groom, feed and walk horses. These activities had therapeutic benefits: the experience boosted participants’ moods, and made them less likely to resit care or become agitated later in the day.

7) Bunny Therapy 

At the Country Care Rehabilitation Center in Santa Margarita, California, speech pathologist Laura VanDerLind uses her two-pound Netherland dwarf rabbit named Chubby Bunny to help calm and engage participants during sessions. “Why do nursing home dementia patients cry and get agitated?” she writes. “They’re confused and scared. They know something is wrong, but it doesn’t resolve. Pet therapy helps improve their morale without making demands.”

8) Doll Therapy
Admittedly, baby dolls can look a little creepy, but they have immense benefits for those with dementia. Dolls can bring back positive memories of parenting, making people feel useful and needed. In studies, they’ve also been shown to reduce aggression and anxiety in people with Alzheimer’s and dementia.

9) Video game therapy
They’re not just for kids! In multiple studies, “excergames,” which require players to perform physical tasks, were shown to improve mobility and balance while reducing the risk of injury and disease in those living with dementia. They have also been shown to slow coginitive decline in older adults with Alzheimer’s and other dementias.

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10) Bright Light Therapy
Exposure to bright light is good for our brains and can help reduce depression and keep our wake-sleep cycles in check. Studies have also shown that habitual exposure to bright light slows cognitive decline and reduces the effects of sundowning. Products like the HappyLight Deluxe Sunshine Supplement Light System can be used to mimic bright sunlight.

11) Snoezelen Rooms

Psychedelic-looking Snoezelen rooms are designed to stimulate the senses—touch, smell, sight and sound— and are used to call up positive memories, as well as to relax and calm whoever is using them. They are filled with things like fiber optic bubble tubes, moving lights, projectors, rockers, artwork and aromatherapy. While they’re a bit difficult to build at home, there are about 1,200 Snoezelen rooms across North America.

Older LGBTQ people still experience prejudice from care staff

This article originally appeared on The Guardian’s website.

By  on 16 September, 2013

In some cases older LGBT people in sheltered housing and care homes have hidden their sexuality

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Some older gay couples hide their sexuality when they go into a care home. Photograph: Zoe Ryan

When same-sex marriage became law in July this year it was a victory for gay rights and another step towards complete equality. But for a whole section of the LGBT community, it seems there is still some way to go.

A BBC report on the worrying issue of homophobia in the UK’s care homes claimed that elderly gay and lesbian people are suffering homophobic bullying from care staff. The report highlighted the case of a woman who faced carers praying for her because she is a lesbian and another refusing to care for her because of her sexuality.

Many charities working to combat this believe that victims are too scared to speak out because of fear of repercussions and some researchers believe that one factor may be the care sector’s increased reliance on foreign labour, including staff from strongly religious backgrounds, where homosexuality is taboo.

Currently, Opening Doors London (ODL) from Age UK is the biggest project providing information and support services to and with older lesbian, gay, bisexual and/or transgender (OLGBT) people in the UK. Age UK and Stonewall Housing are now working on a joint piece of work – developing a national LGBT charter mark for housing providers and other service providers working with OLGBTs.

Back in 2010, Stonewall commissioned pollster YouGov to survey a sample of 1,050 heterosexual and 1,036 lesbian, gay and bisexual people over the age of 55 across Britain. The survey asked about their experiences and expectations of getting older and examined their personal support structures, family connections and living arrangements.

The findings made for alarming reading. Three in five of the respondents were not confident that social care and support services, such as paid carers, or housing services would be able to understand and meet their needs. More than two in five were not confident that mental health services would be able to understand and meet their needs and one in six were not confident that their GP and other health services would be able to understand and meet their needs.

Nearly half of those canvassed said they would be uncomfortable being out to care home staff and a third would be uncomfortable being out to a housing provider, hospital staff or a paid carer.

It is estimated (according to Stonewall) that 5–7% of the population is gay or lesbian. The total population of people over the age of 55 living in the UK is 17,421,000 (based on 2009 mid-year statistics).

So the OLGBT population is a sizeable one. Yet a paper from the Joseph Rowntree Foundation earlier this year revealed a worrying number of horror stories. One lesbian couple talk of moving to a sheltered housing flat and not disclosing their sexuality. When they completed a standard “peace of mind” information form for their housing association they ticked the civil partners box, the tenant association chairman and his wife, who had previously been extremely friendly, started to avoid them. Other residents in the scheme also started to become hostile.

Another anonymous care home user says: “This fear can be on the part of care providers – staff have fantasies about our lives but no knowledge,” adding: “There is a total incomprehension of why an old, gay man cannot be like an old straight man with family ties and grandchildren to keep him happy in life.”

Roger Newman MBE, 72, is one of AgeUK’s ambassadors and a founder of the Lesbian and Gay Carers Network. He says the problem is more about lack of empathy: “Discrimination is illegal so it’s not helpful to talk about that. If discrimination takes place then one goes straight to the law. The problem is that the vast majority of older LGBT people are single people so it’s very difficult to find whistle-blowers.

“One of the biggest issues is that homes tend to talk about treating everyone the same. That doesn’t help anyone because as LGBT people we actually don’t want to be treated the same, we want to be treated as LGBT people and all that involves.”

What that involves, says Newman, who married his partner in March, “is often a huge amount of baggage. People of my age can remember what it was like to be illegal. We have lost jobs and been beaten up. Those experiences have made us build defensive walls around ourselves. Many people of our age won’t even admit their sexuality.” One of the issues, he says, is that people who have been partially out of the closet in later life, go back in when they go into a residential home.

He recounts the story of a friend: “To all of us he was as camp and vibrant as one would want but when he got dementia and went into a residential home there was suddenly nothing to suggest he might be gay or anything from his past. Where we would ordinarily have kissed and hugged him we were reduced to a handshake.” As someone with dementia, his LGBT links were crucial to his wellbeing.

There is work being done. Care home provider Anchor is doing its best to make LGBT people feel welcome and three years ago set up an LGBT group for residents. Liverpool-based Rainbow Lives Project has developed a training package used by Liverpool’s In-Trust Merseyside to provide diversity training for care workers and residential care home staff.

Newman believes residential homes should be more overt with their anti-discrimination policies: “It’s no good having partial agreement, there needs to be something on the wall stating that discrimination will not occur. And residents should have to sign up to their acceptance of that. Simply because we are old doesn’t give us the right to be homophobic.”

It’s also about being made to feel comfortable, Newman adds: “If I go into a residential home I should expect there to be magazines which relate to me and to be able to have photos of my ex-partners on display. We need to hear our language. We use the word “gay” not “homosexual”, for example. If I want to know whether someone is “on my side” I would expect them to understand some of the ways we talk and what we say. If I go to my doctor and say ‘I’m gay,’ and he says, ‘that’s ok, it doesn’t matter,’ that’s not what I want. It does matter.”

Calming people with dementia without medications

I came across this article on nextavenue.org, a great source of information and advice for those 50+. Check them out, there’s lots to find on activity ideas, financial issues, working and volunteering, staying healthy, and much more.

Calming Dementia Patients Without Powerful Drugs:  Nursing homes can do better than medicating residents into a stupor

By Rachel Dornhelm June 10, 2015

(This article originally appeared onKaiserHealthNews.org.)

Diane Schoenfeld comes every Friday to the Chaparral House nursing home in Berkeley, Calif., to spend time with her aunt, Lillie Manger.

“Hi Aunt Lill!” she says, squatting down next to her aunt’s wheelchair, meeting her at eye level.

Manger is 97. She has straight white hair pulled back in a neat bun today. It’s tied with a green scarf, a stylish reminder of the dancer she used to be.

They go together to the dining room to look over family pictures. Manger needs to be reminded who is in them. Including one of herself. “That’s me?” she asks. “That’s you,” her niece confirms.

“Am I supposed to remember?” says Manger.

Schoenfeld smiles at her encouragingly: “I don’t know if you’re supposed to. It’s OK either way.”

Manger has dementia. Schoenfeld is her “surrogate decision maker” meaning that legally, she is the person who makes decisions about Manger’s health care. Schoenfeld says Chaparral House is the second nursing home where Manger has lived. The first was 45 minutes away, and Schoenfeld wasn’t able to visit as often.

At that first home, caregivers recommended antipsychotic sedatives for some of Manger’s behaviors, like crying out and outbursts. Schoenfeld wasn’t thrilled about the idea but agreed to it, thinking her aunt might get better care if staff members weren’t unhappy with her behavior.

Coming Out of a Fog

Two years later, Schoenfeld moved her aunt to Chaparral House to have her closer. By this time, Manger appeared to be in a fog. Eventually, Schoenfeld broached the idea of weaning her aunt from the medication. As soon as they did, she says things turned around.

“I could see her personality again, I was so happy,” Schoenfeld said. “My sister came to visit and (Aunt Lill) used my sister’s name and clearly recognized her, which we had not seen in the years that she was on the medication. I only wish I had done that sooner.”

Schoenfeld says it just didn’t feel right to have her aunt sedated. “If a baby is crying, most people will go to a baby and comfort them. They won’t try to ignore them and drug them,” she says.

KJ Page, administrator of Chaparral House, shares that philosophy. Page says in many cases, dementia patients came to their facility with a prescription to be given antipsychotics half an hour before bath time. Then, a number of years ago, she read a book called Bathing Without a Battle about why it can be such a challenge to bathe dementia patients.

She asks people to imagine putting themselves in the place of the nursing home resident. “A person they didn’t know, couldn’t recognize, comes to take off their clothes,” she says. “Ah! No wonder they’re screaming and fighting and kicking!”

Page says after that “Aha!” moment, the staff came to a new agreement. The residents were not out running marathons or engaging in other sweat-inducing activities, so regular showers weren’t necessary. Instead, residents would have a regular caregiver do simple sponge baths.

Page says the results inspired further changes.

“It just rolled into what else are they fighting for, and why do we need to have a fight?” Page says, “What can we do to make it easier for people and the staff? And that’s how we approached it from there on.”

It worked. While Page says antipsychotics do have a place for some people, not one of Chaparral House’s dementia patients is currently taking the medications.

Grading Nursing Homes on Avoiding Antipsychotic Drugs

Chaparral House’s experience is unusual. In California nursing homes, just over 15 percent of dementia patients are on these drugs. That’s far more than advocates say is necessary.

But that is actually down from almost 22 percent just three years ago. That’s when the federal government began regulating their use for dementia patients in nursing homes. This came in response to several studies warning the medicines had serious risks, including strokes, falls and even death.

The new guidelines stipulate that nursing homes are graded on the percent of their dementia patients receiving antipsychotic medications. That figure becomes part of their rating on Nursing Home Compare, a tool from Medicare that helps consumers compare information about nursing homes.

The drugs are traditionally deployed to control what are seen as problem behaviors. Reducing the medication requires new approaches and retraining staff.

Caroline Stephens, assistant professor at the University of California–San Francisco School of Nursing, who specializes in psychiatric care for the elderly and long-term care policy, says that the new regulations have had a positive impact on staff. “They’re now realizing we don’t have to reach for the medication and they’re getting to think creatively about what we can do for this resident.”

Clinicians Become ‘Good Detectives’

As a consultant at the Hayward Healthcare & Wellness Center nursing home in Hayward, Calif., Stephens helps train nurses and staff on person-centered care, which means being attentive to the cues people give and trying to understand what is bothering them even if they can’t communicate it directly.

Stephens says the new regulations have given more credence to the approach. She describes one of her success stories in helping a dementia patient who was always fighting to leave the facility at the end of the day.

“They felt they needed to catch the bus, they had to get home because they need to take care of their daughter,” she says.

Instead of physically restraining the person or prescribing medication, Stephens says they put a sign on the door that said, simply, “It’s a holiday; buses aren’t running today.” The sign worked. The person stopped fighting to leave and there was no need for antipsychotic medication.

Looking Deeper

At another nursing home, Stephens consulted with staff about a resident who was disruptive and constantly wandered at night — including into other patients’ rooms. He had been given an antipsychotic to control his behavior. But in a deeper look at his background, staff learned that he’d worked as a night security guard for most of his adult life.

The staff came up with a new plan. They gave the resident a badge and clipboard and walked with him on an abbreviated set of “evening rounds.” Sure enough, he’d willingly go to bed after that and they were able to take him off medication.

Stephens says when the patients themselves can’t communicate, it’s vital to talk to family, to find out what the person did for a living and what they enjoyed in life.

“It is our job as clinicians to be good detectives,” she explains.

This is especially important as nursing homes serve an increasingly diverse clientele. Stephens says the nursing home model was built around an older, white, female patient. Today, the demographics have changed.

At Hayward Healthcare and Wellness, she says, “There are probably 15 different racial groups and a minimum of five languages spoken.”

Risk of Cherry-Picking Patients

One of the big advocates for the federal regulations was Tony Chicotel, staff attorney with California Advocates for Nursing Home Reform. He welcomes the guidelines but says he is concerned about an unintended consequence.

While across the state the overall rate of antipsychotic use has dropped, he says that several hundred nursing homes have rates that have either stayed the same or increased, in some cases almost doubled.

Chicotel says that in an effort to decrease their patients on antipsychotics to get better ratings, some facilities may be cherry-picking patients, essentially warehousing the hardest to wean from antipsychotics in the bleakest facilities.

Chicotel says families and caregivers can look up a nursing home’s antipsychotic drug use rates as well as other drug usage data on websites, including Nursing Home Compare.

Still, these guidelines and ratings cover only nursing homes. Increasingly, Chicotel says, he is fielding calls from families worried about the use of antipsychotics in assisted living and home care settings, which aren’t covered by the regulations.

“We need to be more proactive about trying to get data for assisted living facilities and reconfiguring our message so it’s more applicable to assisted-living facilities,” Chicotel says.

Earlier this year, the GAO released a report urging HHS to expand its regulation of antipsychotics in dementia patients to settings besides nursing homes.

UCSF professor Stephens says this points to retraining ever more medical professionals in patient-centered care, eliminating the need for patients to be medicated as a form of restraint.

“If we can train generalists, I think we can make some headway,” she says.

Rachel Dornhelm wrote this piece with support from the Journalists in Aging Fellows Program of the Gerontological Society of America and New America Media, sponsored by the AARP. It appeared first on KQED’s State of Health blog.

Who takes care of the caregiver?

This is a re-post from Jessica Kingsley Publishers. You can also read the article on their website by clicking here.

Shake up your view of your demanding and relentless work so that you can start to put yourself at the centre of your caregiving work. Cheryl Rezek, author of Mindfulness for Carers, has written an incredibly honest blog on why it’s important to say ‘no’, putting yourself first, and being mindful of your emotions as a carer.

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Taking care of someone else = neglecting to take care of yourself.  Does this ring true for you?  A carer or caregiver is often prone to using all their time, energy and resources giving the person or persons the attention and support that is needed.  However, the danger that can arise is that the caring is only working in one direction.

This blog isn’t about patting you on the back, telling you that you really ought to get some rest or saying what a great job you are doing.  You know all these things already.  You should be patting yourself on the back for all that you do as well as making sure that you get enough sleep and keep your stress levels down.  The chances are you don’t do any of those things or the rest of the long list that could be tagged onto that one.  This blog is about shaking up your view of your demanding and relentless work so that you can start to put yourself at the centre of your caregiving work.

Possibly one of the most difficult issues with being a caregiver is setting boundaries.  To do this can set in motion a whole range of emotions and fears – I’m being selfish; I don’t need help; what if something happens when I’m resting or out?; how will the person manage without me?  These responses are common and, at times, come about for good reason.  To say No to someone, in any form, may seem like a mean, uncaring or unrealistic thing to do but this is not always the case.  On occasions, the caregiver’s anxieties and fears are greater than those coming from the person being cared for.  We often don’t want to admit, or even acknowledge, that our anxiety may be what is driving us to be overstretched rather than only the needs or demands of the situation.  Perhaps there are occasions when you could go out or ask someone else to take your place for a short time but you may be reluctant to do this.  Why?  What is the concern behind this?  Do you think you’ll be criticised?  Have you lost touch with so many of your friends that you don’t actually have anyone to go out with?  Is it easier being the round-the-clock caregiver than having to deal with some other issue in your life?  Does your position give you power in the family or at work that isn’t allowed to be questioned?  Does your role give you a strong sense of identity that you may not otherwise feel?  As a professional, are you needing to present in a certain way to your colleagues or do you perhaps enjoy the energy and status that may accompany the demands of the job?  These are important questions to ask yourself as without some answers you will struggle to find a place for yourself.  With all the good that is done by being the generous and attentive caregiver, it can also work against you.

Most carers don’t set out to be in that role, unless by choosing a career in it.  The vast majority of family carers are doing it because of circumstance, often thrust upon them in some harsh way.  The choices here are dramatically reduced but, in spite of that, you still have a choice about how you take care of yourself as well as the other person.

There are evident differences between being a family caregiver and a professional person who is in a helping profession.  Family carers or foster carers feel an enormous responsibility for the wellbeing, comfort and survival of their relative or foster child.  Needless to say, professional caregivers such as nurses, doctors, social workers, therapists and health assistant also feel such a sense of responsibility but there is an inevitable difference as the family ties, bonds and history aren’t there, and while loss may be felt, sometimes deeply, it is not felt in the same way or with the same level of intensity.  Professional carers go home at the end of the day, or shift, and if they don’t they ought to.

It is important to also raise the issue of being a family carer for someone with whom one does not have a good or loving relationship.  This situation is more common than most people would like to admit but the other person’s vulnerability makes it very difficult to say no or to set limits.  Caring out of a sense of duty or obligation can lead to resentment and distress.

Caregivers come in many shapes and forms and people are in those roles for as many different reasons – a parent to a sick or disabled child, a special education teacher, a hospice worker, an adult child of elderly or ill parents, a partner of chronically ill or terminal husband or wife, a young child of an ill parent, a foster carer, a medical doctor, a community nurse, a health assistant in a mental health unit, a social worker, a carer of younger siblings.  The list is endless but the demands and stress frequently similar.

The big question is how you take care of yourself and if you don’t, why not?  Burnout and fatigue can lead to physical and mental health issues.  These are damaging and you then run the risk of making mistakes, becoming unwell and, at worst, needing to be taken care of yourself.

Mindfulness is a gentle, accessible and nourishing way of reducing caregiver’s stress and increasing their wellbeing and attention.  Research has also shown how those being cared for by people using mindfulness benefit from their carers being more present and open to them.

We are human and no matter how resilient we believe we are, how physically strong we show ourselves to be or how psychologically grounded we say we are, we are still human and being human implies that we have thresholds of tolerance.  It’s not about breaking or collapsing in a heap but far more about recognising that as a caregiver you need to take care of yourself as well as the other person.

Dr Cheryl Rezek is a consultant clinical psychologist and mindfulness teacher who brings a fresh and novel approach to how mindfulness and psychological concepts can be integrated into everyone’s life as a way of managing it in the most helpful way.  She has a longstanding clinical and academic career as well as runs workshops and authors books.  You can find out more about Mindfulness for Carers, read reviews or order your copy here.

Dementia and the Caregiver Guilt Trip

Dementia and the Caregiver Guilt Trip

Posted by Kay H. Bransford on  in A Day in the Life of Dementia

I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by the ongoing journey with mom. Two weeks ago, I sat and observed her in the community center before going up to say hello and she looked so sad. I left wondering if we are doing right by mom and was in a funk for days over it. My mom told me for 30 years she never wanted to be a burden to her children which is why they moved into a Continuing Care Retirement Community (CCRC). A quick tour through my blog will tell you a very different story. I am honored to be able to advocate for her, but when she goes through periods asking me to take her with me, my stomach drops. I feel guilty that we should have moved her in with us, not into this memory care community.

In an instant my funk is lifted thanks to a comment by a woman I met at a business function. She told me her mom has dementia and her dad has been telling her over and over “If I go first, your mom is going to beg you to let her move in with you. Don’t do it, she would never have asked for that. It’s the disease, not your mother talking.” In an instant, this woman helped me realize what I knew, but emotionally got mired in guilt, and could not recognize.

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5 Ways Memory Care Will Change By 2025

This is a re-post from Seniorhousingnews.com.

Written by Tim Mullaney

Senior housing providers recognize the rapidly growing need for memory care services, with recent industry surveys showing construction booming in this area.

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5 criteria for dementia-friendly hotels

Feeling stuck at home? Here’s a guide to dementia-friendly travel with your loved one. You can do it!

This article is a re-post from Alzlive.com. Check them out for more travel tips and information on Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias.

Do your pre-trip sleuthing to ensure your lodgings are safe and sound for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or dementia.

Not all hotel rooms are created equal! Here are five features to look for or request when booking travel in the United States, Canada or even further afield, if you are adventurous. These amenities provide a safer, better home-sweet-home experience for patients and caregivers.
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Q&A: Not recognizing themselves in the mirror

This question was posed in a dementia forum the other day. I think it’s a good question not only for family members and care partners, but also for the wider public to hear. So many times, people think dementia is all about memory loss. Dementia is about a lot of cognitive changes, and memory loss is usually the most common. This Q&A helps to let care partners know about at least one change which is not unusual and helps the general public to realize that dementia is about more than forgetting.

My husband looked in the bathroom mirror this morning and asked “Who’s that?” I knew people with dementia got to where they couldn’t recognize OTHER people but never expected this. Is it “common”???

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Q&A: Do I have dementia, too?

This question was posed on a support forum for people working with memory problems (family, professionals, anyone interested in memory issues and memory care). It’s not an uncommon question. In fact, many people who are close to someone with dementia worry that they are also showing signs of the degenerative syndrome. And it’s also known that people who care for someone with dementia tend to have more health risks and higher rates of depression – also risk factors for developing dementia. While depression, chronic lack of sleep, and stress can cause symptoms that can be mistaken for dementia, there are distinct differences. The takeaway:  dementia is not only about memory loss!

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